When we truly start to understand coping mechanisms, we begin to understand that they are simply the tip of the iceberg when it comes to someone’s personality. They are simply behaviors created over years and years of trauma and a search for some sense of normalcy and stability. The fact that our bodies have ways to adapt is kind of miraculous in and of itself and that’s why it’s so important to not shame the person or the behavior but seek to understand how it got there in the first place.